A consistent topic of discussion in our home over the last few months has been that of community. Our church has really been focusing on community groups (home group, life group, small group, etc.) and getting our church families plugged into a group that they can grow deeper with, whether that be in a Sunday morning Adult Bible Fellowship class, or a community group outside of 'church hours.'The goal for community groups I guess, is probably a little different from church to church. The purpose for them as far as our church goes, is to grow and multiply. Each group has a revolving door, so to speak, where people can visit and see if a group fits them. If it doesn't, no hard feelings, and they check out another group until something clicks. When a group gets 'too big' (a definition that varies depending on who you ask) they split, or multiply as we call it, into 2 groups, or 3 if there are enough people to do that. This is also depending on if there's someone within said group that is willing to open their home to host.
While I completely get the idea of growing and multiplying, as is our church's goal, a revolving door with visitors coming and going and the (ideal) possibility of multiplying every few months is not, in my opinion, conducive to building deep relationships. When talking about this with someone at church recently, she said, "I want a tribe."
Yes! I need a tribe. A village. A group of people that is solid, consistent, not changing all the time.
We (Allen and I) don't get small group at church.
We're teaching, mentoring, discipling, leading.
So how do we find a balance?
Where do we as pastors' families find the opportunity for true community?
In Hebrews we're told to meet together and encourage one another. In Galatians we're told to bear one another's burdens. In Acts the disciples broke bread in fellowship and prayer.
I'd love to hear your thoughts, pastors and wives of pastors. And whoever else might be reading this.
What's a community group look like to you? What should it be?