Sunday, June 7, 2015

When Decisions Are Hard

My kids hate making decisions. Hate it like Kanye West hates to smile.

Sometimes my 8-year-old will walk away with nothing, rather than having to decide between two options.
This was how it went down at Starbucks recently....
Me: Would you rather have a fancy drink, or a snack and water?
Her: Both.
Me: Nope, you know the rule. One or the other.
Her: I want a snack AND a lemonade.
Me: Ok, by not making a choice you choose neither.
Her: I can't decide!
Me: Ok, then neither.

And that's how we leave it. There's tears and pointing, especially when I still place an order and she actually doesn't get anything. This has happened on more than one occasion in many different settings. My son will eventually decide but with a sense of defeat, like he might be making the wrong decision and will forever regret it.
I know, I know. #firstworldproblems
The thing is, their decisions aren't even hard! They're choosing between 2 really great things, or at the very least things that don't have any eternal value or life-changing ramifications. A decision between whether to spend your money on a Lego set or a video game will most likely not keep anyone up at night with buyers remorse or have them wishing for a do-over.

But we're adults.
And adults have to make some pretty tough decisions.

Do you:
Take the job?
Buy the house?
End the relationship?
Accept the offer?
Confront them?
Move away?
Hold your tongue?
Take the risk?
Step out in faith?

How do you make big decisions? Do you go to the Word? Do you have a trusted person or group of people who help you process? List the pros and cons? Cross your fingers and hope for the best?
Where does faith come in? Does it?

Sometimes there isn't a wrong decision. You have two or maybe even three really good options you're deciding between. Two great job offers. Three beautiful homes. How do you know which one to commit to?
Or it could be the difference between a right decision and a wrong decision, but you're torn. Your head says one things but your heart says another. Which do you listen to?

I was recently reading out of Matthew 7 and verse 13 says "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it."
Granted this verse is speaking of salvation and entering God's Kingdom, but God uses scripture to speak to our hearts in different ways. For me, when I read this last week I was at a point of needing to make a decision. I wanted to make the decision that suited me and my wishes/desires/ideals. The easy decision. This verse reminded me that God doesn't always allow us to make the easy decisions. Sometimes the right option is the toughest one, the one that doesn't feel good, the one that makes us ask, "Really, God?"
In faith I chose the 'less attractive' option so to speak. And now I wait and trust God to do the rest.

I don't know who this is for. Maybe it's just for the sake of me getting my thoughts down in writing.
I do know though, that I'm not the only one with decisions to make, and I pray that whatever your decision is, you'll be able to make it with confidence and peace, knowing that God is faithful and good.

Thanks for stopping by the fishbowl.
Have a great week!

1 comment:

Caitlyn said...

Favorite Line : "Hate it like Kanye West hates to smile."
Seriously though, this was super great, as always. One of my friends visited a Quaker church, and she said they call prayer "holding it up the Light." I like that image, like we're holding up little slips of paper with our options on it to Jesus and asking "what do you think of this one? Nope? Okay, how about this one?" Sometimes He gives guidance on which one is best, and sometimes after I show Him all my options, He slips me a note that says, "How about THIS one?"

Thanks for sharing that :)