We've just wrapped up 4 consecutive weeks of chaos (VBS, back to back youth camps, and Kids Kamp) and are taking a quick breather before Allen leaves Friday for mission trip to San Francisco. I know I said I would be MIA for 2 weeks, and that turned into 3. I was tempted to let it turn into 4, but I had an exchange with someone the other day that sparked this post.
I honestly don't remember where I was or even the exact question I was asked, but someone asked me something along the lines of how the month had been or how we were holding up, and I answered honestly.
"Tired. We're ready for a break."
The person I was talking to told me they love my honesty, and it got my wheels turning.
Do I always answer honestly? Am I too honest? Is there such a thing?
Who has two thumbs and over thinks everything?
Guilty as charged.
As pastors' wives, where's that balance? I want to be genuine, but I don't want to sound like I'm complaining or ungrateful.
When I say that we're tired and ready for a break, that's not to say that the last 4 weeks haven't been so good. Week 2 of youth camp is probably the hottest place I've ever been and I had a sick kid for a day, but 50 students made professions of faith. Salvation trumps illness.
If I made a pros and cons list the pro side would definitely win out. Maybe I should make one and carry copies around to give to people that ask me how we're doing?? Too much?
I don't want to tell people I'm "doing great" if I'm not. I don't want to word vomit on people either.
I generally give more to people that I'm closer to, and I have to consider the time and place as well. When someone spots me across the parking lot at Hobby Lobby and yells, "Hey! How are you?" it's not the appropriate time to share with them the details of my week. However, as I mentioned, I won't say "Great!!" if that's not the truth. My go to when I'm not 'great' is, "Hangin' in there."
There are times when I'd like to say, "Hanging by a thread and the next person that needs something from me or my husband is getting punched in the throat!"
I feel like that would be frowned upon.
Seriously, though, what's the expectation of those of us in ministry? Of course we have bad days. Are we allowed to share it? Are we allowed to show it? Do we put on a happy face and pretend everything is ok because what will people think if they see that we have real emotions and struggles and issues?
I would love you to weigh in on this. Do you tend to overshare, or do you have a bent towards the 'happy face'? What's the balance for you?