I never know quite how to answer this question. I'm an only child, and growing up I got asked all the time, "Do you like being an only child?"
In both cases, I don't have anything to compare it to; in my past life I was also an only child and married to a pastor.
I'm kidding. I was definitely a celebrated singer/songwriter with an impressive shoe collection. And great hair. And a year-round tan.
Ok, I'll stop.
Seriously, though, I got to thinking about it, and what I would like to tell people who ask, "What's it like?"
I would tell them that I have the same struggles and hang-ups and feelings that they do. I get tired. I struggle with my self-image and my worth. Sometimes I get lonely. I feel overwhelmed at least once a
I love my family and cherish the times I have with them, washing the cars together, taking an impromptu day trip, visiting someone in the hospital, or sneaking in an episode of Duck Dynasty before tucking the kids into bed.
There are things unique to being the wife of a pastor, as I'm sure there are things unique to being the wife of a chef, a doctor, or a fireman.
There are expectations put on me and my family, and sometimes I have to evaluate if I'm doing something out of obligation or personal conviction. I've done both. I've done the right thing for the wrong reason. I'm learning.
I have been called to partner with my husband in ministry. He's 'the face' of the ministry, but we're a team. I love the students and want to see the body of Christ grow and succeed. I want our home and our family to be a safe place for students and friends who need a little love. Or a lot of love. Or maybe just a good meal.
I'd tell them that I consider my position an honor and my desire is to love and serve with a joyful heart. I don't always succeed in this, because I'm far from perfect, but I have a God who's perfect, and while I have no idea what it's like being the wife of anyone but a pastor, I do know this is what God has called me to, and I will seek to honor and glorify Him in all I do. Hopefully, just like you.
Alright, pastor's wives, what would you tell people? I'd love to hear from you.